I agree. Parts of you can get stuck, in the trauma, experienced at the time. Exactly like that. There's this brilliant book called "no bad parts" by Richard C. Schwartz, PHD. And it takes you step by step incrementally through your parts stuck in trauma. I'm wording it poorly, it's brilliant stuff. I was listening to the audio book while gardening, it's absolutely the worst time to ugly cry, snot and all, when you're covered in dirt and can't wipe anything away. It was a good cry though. Letting go.