You're not listening to what I'm saying. You used a hate term. Using the term "rainbow mafia" to describe some imaginary group of people who make up terms to "feel special" is detracting from all LGBTQ+ terms.

Secondly, you can only claim "it was a joke" for something that denies someone's existence or right to exist as a human if you are in that group. Then and only then can you make a joke of that nature. You stated you thought gray was a term invented by the rainbow Mafia. This implies you believe a "rainbow mafia" exists. Since the term "rainbow mafia" when speaking of LGBTQ+ labels is a talking point for hate speech against LGBTQ+ people in those groups by stating explicitly that they do not exist and are only the figment of the "rainbow mafia's" imagination. This argent is also being used even as far as denying the existence of gay, lesbian, bisexual, or any of the terms. If you believe this and you specifically stated that gray sounded like a term LGBTQ+ people are accused of creating frivolously, you can not claim "joking".

This is like a white person saying that black people are inhuman and violent and should be put down. It doesn't matter if they then say "it was a joke". It is hate speech regardless of whether you were serious. You can't use that excuse just because you're human and say oh when I can't say humans are all violent animals. That's not at all what was said first.

You're creating straw men to defend your hate speech. Either apologize if you didn't understand what you were saying or what "rainbow mafia" truly implies when talking about well established LGBTQ+ classifications. Everyone needs education, there's no shame in admitting to a mistake. Otherwise I would ask that you kindly leave the community.