Yeah, that's true. Feelings got hurt and lines got crossed. Unfortunate situation.

I have two trans friends who use the T-slur a lot, and we had a respectful conversation, and now they don't use it as much around me. But I don't want them to stop using the term altogether or police it. They're not doing anything wrong for reclaiming it, but it just gives me flashbacks, you know? We all have different comfort zones, which are extra difficult to manage in a public space like this.