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Does anyone know of any peronal blogs for transitioning to grey? (piefed.social)
submitted 4 months ago by to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
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Hi all, as above i am looking for some personal blogs. I don't really like social media FB/Insta/TikTok etc so I am not looking for direction to them. Maybe YT is its exceptional and non advertisy.

I am just looking for individuals journals, and or genuine reviews of products and approaches. The internet is drowning in affiliate and compilation pages when I just want to have a look around at how other tackled it, and some reasonable priced products.

Happy for your stories too.

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[–] 5 points 4 months ago (4 children)

This has really crossed the line here. Shark is a respected member of this community. They are not making fun of the LGBT+ community.

“Rainbow mafia” or “alphabet mafia” has absolutely been reclaimed by parts of the LGBT+ community.

You are being incredibly aggressive toward allies here.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago

    Unfortunately, the way it was used was to make fun of the fact that "gray" might be an LGBTQ+ term, which it is, I fall slightly under it's umbrella and my girlfriend falla significantly under it. If this community is not welcoming of LGBTQ+ women like my partner and I then I will leave, but attacking me for trying to explain that it was offensive to my partner to have a term she uses being called out as part of the "rainbow mafia" in a way that was not "reclaiming" since it was degrading to the term, and then to have it turned around that I was the one taking agency from LGBTQ+ people and that they were "just joking" is extremely offensive to all LGBTQ+ people. Since this is not a welcoming community to those in my community my partner and I will walk away, but I think it's pretty sad when a community meant to be a safe space becomes a safe space for attacks on a community that is currently under siege.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago (2 children)

    People are allowed to reclaim harmful terms, and people are also allowed to not feel comfortable with that. For a lot of people, terms like that have been traumatizing, and I'm just seeing two people processing that here in different ways.

    I think the reclaimers and the term-avoiders need to find a way to coexist, but I don't think Sharkweek or Jul are doing anything wrong in feeling the way that they do.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago* (1 child)

    They crossed a line accusing Shark of using hateful rhetoric on purpose to attack them and asking if they’re a far-right troll.

    We can respectfully disagree without going that far.

    It’s clear to me that neither person here meant harm, so it is equally unfair to start hurling harmful accusations.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

    Yeah, that's true. Feelings got hurt and lines got crossed. Unfortunate situation.

    I have two trans friends who use the T-slur a lot, and we had a respectful conversation, and now they don't use it as much around me. But I don't want them to stop using the term altogether or police it. They're not doing anything wrong for reclaiming it, but it just gives me flashbacks, you know? We all have different comfort zones, which are extra difficult to manage in a public space like this.

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