If having your perception of a fictional character from a fictional story, challenged with reality, prompts you to seek out and destroy someone's life, you're a problem. It doesn't matter what the reason is, that's your psychological responsibility to manage without hurting other people. If you can't do that, then you need to give up that perception or accept being treated like the threat you are. Others have every right to have different opinions about fictional things without having their life destroyed. That's tyrannical and deeply unhealthy and in this example, that's women and smut.

Perhaps my interjection of a bit of reality into your perception of smut is making you want to commit some social-violence, yourself?