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[–] 176 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Look into vaginismus, it's fairly common and way too many women suffer because they don't know about it.

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  • [–] 69 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    This was my immediate thought too.

    OP - it's not that uncommon, and is totally treatable.

    It's just some muscles involuntary tensing up as a result of something going inside (or sometimes even the idea). Unfortunately, because it's an involuntary reflex, you can't "just relax" it away. It's just something your body needs to unlearn.

    Talk to your doctor, follow their advice.

    For what it's worth, both of the people I knew who had it when they were younger, once it was sorted, it stayed sorted.

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  • [–] 31 points 4 months ago

    I was about to say this. I remember a story about from the olden days of reddit where a woman had the issue and didn't realize it till her late 20s or so. She just thought sex is supposed to be painful until a new partner came along. I think they got into other forms of sexual play and not just PIV, but to each there own.

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