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[–] 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Okay, thank you. I'm autistic, and social activities are very challenging for me in general, so it's genuinely helpful to have examples that show the expectations can be low.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    No worries but I should clarify a little bit though.

    Expectations can absolutely be high but the key is to find someone with the same expectations as you. I do know one couple who's first date was skydiving and their wedding was a destination ski trip. The key is that that was who they both were before the relationship. Either one of them would not last in a relationship where dates are coffee shops and bookstores and such. It's not "showy" relative to their usual selves.

    If your idea of a good time is visiting the local gardens, and your date likes butterflies, then you've got a first date. If your idea of a good time is a rock climbing gym and your date enjoys editing together videos, then build your first date around a GoPro and a climb.

    The lady in the original post met the guy in an art class, her expectation was probably to go get a coffee and visit a museum with his favourite local painting or something that they could talk about. Nothing fancy, just an expression of himself.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago

    Thanks again for being willing to provide all that. In my defense, I did say expectations "can be" low, not that they always would be. It might be a moot point anyway. I'm still working out earlier steps.

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