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[–] 9 points 5 months ago (1 child)

This is so tough. My partner's mother is a vicious manipulator and abuser, still tries to put her hands on her grown children. I love him so much and want to do my best to support him but I can't have a relationship with her. She's not permitted at our house because every time we've tried, she starts a toddler tantrum over whatever comes to mind and gets violent.

I worry it weighs heavily on him and I wish I could stomach more interaction with her, I imagine it would make his life easier in some ways. But I've hit my max when it comes to abusive people. I'm a domestic abuse survivor and I simply don't have any more space for folks who behave that way.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago

    I worry it weighs heavily on him

    I'm on the other side of that equation, and while my father being a racist POS weighs a bit on me, inviting him over and dealing with that bullshit fallout would be 50x worse.

    ya' doin' fine

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