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[–] 25 points 5 months ago (9 children)

Sharing your opinions of how others chose to dress or act is weird unless you are doing it to influence others. Trying to influence people by belittling them is rude.

You could be saying it about how someone dresses, or dances, or what bike they chose to ride.

It is unfortunate that men belittling women about their makeup is so pervasive in our culture that after at least three generations of people highlighting how hurtful it is, people still think their right to state their opinion of random people is more important than people's right to go through their day without being accosted.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    How common is it that random people just tell women on face these things? Asking out of genuine curiosity

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago

    It’s usually not complete strangers, but friends and partners: “you look better with less makeup”, “why are you wearing that?”, “see you look good without makeup!”, “are you OK, you look sick?”, “what’s wrong, are you sad?”

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    What do any of those things have to do with the conversation. They didnt understand why men sharing an opinion about women's makeup was a problem. I explained my view of it.

    Life is unfair and people can be mean isn't a justification its just whataboutism cope. Rather than actually letting people consider that maybe their behavior has hurt people you are helping them justify it because people maybe somewhere other people were mean to some other person probably.

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  • [+] -6 points 5 months ago* (4 children)

    Well that's definitely a take. People can't have experiences of others and share them.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (1 child)

    You really aren’t getting it eh? People are literally spelling it out for you and you’re still completely dodging the point.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago*

    I just don't agree with it. People experience others and have every right to share how they experience the world around them, even if that hurts someone's feelings. No one has a right to never hear an opinion that makes them feel bad. You're not children, you're adults.

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  • [–] -1 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    My experience is that you would come off as a lot more approachable online if you used less words. You might think that using all those words covers up your flaws but I think you could use a lot less words and be your authentic self and people would like being around you more.

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