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[–] 104 points 5 months ago (14 children)

When I came back home from the hospital after my amputation, my wife of 30 years told me she didn't sign up for this, packed up her things and left.

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  • [–] 30 points 5 months ago

    This happens more than people want to admit, and it can be sudden after a period of support. Like someone gets cancer and their SO sticks by their side until it gets stage 4, things get really messy and hard, and suddenly they're off starting a new life. My SO is a therapist and has seen it firsthand, it's gruesome and cruel.

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  • [–] 20 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    Wow. Im sorry you encountered this.

    While thankfully I have had nothing amputated (yet... but im diabetic), ive noticed that each of several partners over the years has just been abominable at showing empathy.

    For example, if I tried to tell my current SO that im feeling a bit down she would absolutely get the shits with me and tell me how shitty her life is.

    Theres something about kicking a dog when its down that some people just cant restrain themselves.

    In hind sight, would it have been helpful for your partner to give you a few months to recover before leaving?

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    If your SO can't show empathy, that's a good indicator they aren't a good choice for a long term relationship.

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  • [–] 0 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Wow thats so insightful. Amazing. You should write a book or something. Boom.

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  • [+] -13 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    PackeD HER things ? IM CONFUSED..

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