All men do have all encompassing views on women, they're socialised to believe them, most of them serve capitalism. Shutting your eyes to their existence, doesn't make them not there. It feels like you are trying to "not all men". If people are judged by their actions, do the 62 million men who logged onto a rape your wife website, to enjoy the uploads, just this week gone, get judged for their behaviours, what about the consistent amount of rapes actually committed, predominantly by men, the amount of women killed a year. The canary in the coal mine, died years ago. This is a systemic and cultural issue. Men are cultured to hate women, look down on women. They speak nicely to women they find attractive and treat those they don't without even basic respect. Because they're socialised to see women as an adornment put on this earth for them, an object. When you smooth over and try and imply it's bigotry to point out systemic oppression, it's right in there, with the oppressors, enabling the system. Patriarchy doesn't just suck, it kills, hundreds if not thousands a year. It's not just an annoyance.