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How men are different than women (lemmy.world)
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[–] 7 points 5 months ago (20 children)

... for not boring each other with mundane anecdotes? Lol

I'm sure your friends totally love when you talk about yourself, though

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  • [–] -2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

    If your friends bore you, you may need better friends

    And are you telling me you seriously have nothing interesting to say to a friend when you meet them? What do you do all day that you have nothing to discuss?

    What on earth do you even do with your friends? Play football? Drink and sit and go "yup"? Is this a thing I'm not "manly" enough to understand or what?

    Are you of an older generation that is embarassed to talk about feelings or private matters? Help me understand here

    There's just no way you're not gonna have anything to recount. No way. Or do you see your friends every day? Is that it? Is this a small town thing? How is this normal? Is this an American thing? Americans tend to behave in strange ways like this. It's an American thing isn't it? It's King of the Hill. Did I get it? Is it King of the Hill?

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    What do you do all day that you have nothing to discuss?

    My tedious job. Then I get home and work out, make dinner and clean up, maybe have an hour or so to watch a show or game or something.

    What on earth do you even do with your friends? Play football? Drink and sit and go “yup”? Is this a thing I’m not “manly” enough to understand or what?

    We do other things beside football like darts, or bowling, or have a backyard fire, or boardgames, but for the most part... yea. If somebody's working on an interesting project or is doing something cool we'll talk about that.

    Are you of an older generation that is embarassed to talk about feelings or private matters? Help me understand here

    It's not that we're embarrassed, there's just no point. It does nothing for us. 95% of the time all the mundane personal shit is the same as last time we saw them. If anything major comes up or someone is going through some shit, sure we'll talk about it. but for the most part it's not interesting.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    If somebody’s working on an interesting project or is doing something cool we’ll talk about that.

    If anything major comes up or someone is going through some shit, sure we’ll talk about it.

    So that means you talk to your friends about as much as any other person would.

    Alright then, get outta here you rascal. Got me all fired up here for nothing. 😂

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    OP post wife asked about "kids, families, jobs." There are plenty of families where there would be no news about those subjects. But furthermore, there are plenty of topics that were probably mentioned but then forgotten because they were mundane.

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  • [+] -16 points 5 months ago (15 children)

    You Incels just can't get over it I suppose.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (11 children)

    Looks over at my wife ok bro

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  • [+] -15 points 5 months ago (10 children)

    Point still stands. The exception does not make the rule.

    Most men suck. At least I'm self-aware and admit it.

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  • [–] 13 points 5 months ago (9 children)

    Username checks out.

    Now I'm just left here wondering if you're doing a bit or if this is an actual viewpoint

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  • [+] -12 points 5 months ago (8 children)

    Look at the statistics. I have both anectodal experience, have heard the opinion of various women, one of which straight up explained she feels visceral disgust from men.

    Then you see the content men like, read about the rape academy, see with your own eyes how society is selfishly structured to benefit mostly men.

    And men have reduced empathy and more of a bootstraps mindset.

    My increasingly watching my behavior around women, so they don't feel threatened, showering, and I'm not even going to bother dating, because I know I have to fix my health first.

    I don't even bother correcting my co-workers, I just respond with "yeah", "hot I guess", or visible disgust.

    Just stay aware, and understand that it is not about you, men are simply more dangerous to women, and there is no way a woman can know you are safe.

    Don't hit on women randomly, there's dating sites and other places like that.

    Keep your violent thoughts, love of physical sports, bragging about muscles to yourself and other men.

    And again, showers and deodorant.

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    There are a lot of sweeping conclusions and self-loathing in your comment, but i'd just like to point out the irony and hypocrisy in what you said.

    You said “Men have reduced empathy” while simultaneously advocating visible disgust toward male coworkers and assuming moral guilt by category membership.

    Guess what. That's not empathy either.

    A disciplined man is not the same thing as a dangerous man. The internet increasingly struggles to tell the difference.

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  • [+] -8 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    How am I not supposed to feel disgust when someone literally tells me to "grab her by the pussy" when referring to a woman who is already engaged?

    Do you expect me to enjoy that?

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    No. Nobody should say that. Just don't make the mistake of thinking all men are like that. How could you possibly know that all 4.1 billion men on earth are the same when you have only met a tiny fraction of them?

    I think it's hilarious that you said men have lower empathy and then proceeded to demonstrate that you have little empathy.

    You seem to have the emotional intelligence of a wet napkin.

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  • [+] -7 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Fine, throw insults around, live in a bubble, and I will instead do the thing that actually gets results.

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    That source you screenshotted literally says "not well studied or clearly proven."

    You're cherry picking information and you know it.

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  • [+] -6 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I don't have anywhere near enough evidence to prove anything to others, so believe what you want.

    I will take the necessary steps to avoid what I know is a problem. If mainstream behavior works for everyone else, good for them.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    This post is about male friendships being different than female friendships and you bring incels out like a jump scare

    You're the problem here lol

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  • [–] -2 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    My original comment was that men suck, because friendships with men are generaly like...I recently fell out with a group because they ate the sigma pill, and started to believe really dumb shit.

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