I've never been able to do it.

When I'm relaxed, I'm hardly aware of my surroundings and when I'm alert, I'm nervous as hell.

How the hell do people keep their composure in difficult situations and still get through them alright?

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[–] 4 points 6 months ago (1 child)

What you're describing as "alert" sounds more like hypervigilance. It's a maladaption in modern life, but was probably really useful for keeping you and your group safe from predators in the stone-age. I'm no psychiatrist, but it may be down to some anxiety or trauma that's left you extra wary. Figuring out the root cause might help you overcome it and be alert and calm at the same time.

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