What's interesting and I think is tied into that "people think life is about control" is that I am deeply convinced that the tech barons learned to hate democracy because administering computers and networks is not democratic in nature at all. An admin always has access and controls for everything, nobody votes an admin into position. Hell, we've seen numerous Fediverse sites come and go because being an admin is actually a huge task, especially if you're handling it on your own. Even with that power diffused among multiple administrators, it can often be difficult escape the hierarchical nature of how computers are designed at their core.

As you point out, this isn't evil, this is a type of tool. Like all tools, it can be used for good or ill, to build or to destroy. Currently we are being overrun with people who want to use it to control everyone else. They certainly think life is about control, and it's part of why they are so deeply unhappy.

It's also why the open source world is so fucking precious. The Cathedral versus the Bazaar. The bazaar style of development is such a massive deal because we could extrapolate this kind of governance to other parts of society. I worry deeply for a potential schism in the open source community when Linus Torvalds stops developing from old age or disease or just dying randomly in a car crash.

Open Source is that good that computers are being used for. Outside the corporate funded open source, there's so many tiny little open source projects for almost anything imaginable, all shared freely so others can bear the fruits as well.