I read something the other day that sorta explains this. I felt the same way you do. But what I read was that women know that all men aren’t evil. But they aren’t sure which one’s are. It just clicked in my head and helped me understand the mentality.

Trauma responses are hard. I think it's great you're actively working on it and are conscious of your own biases, that's huge. Good luck!

You just haven't gone far enough; all women are evil too.