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Are most men not whiling to adopt? (lemmy.zip)
submitted 6 months ago by to c/askmen@lemmy.world
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The only way I'll ever have children is through adoption but it seems most guys want biological children.

Most of the guys I met would say that they fear that they wouldn't see an adopted child as theirs which honestly breaks my heart a little.

I did some research and apparently most adoptive parents generally chose that option because the man is infertile, not the other way around.

So it would seem like most men are only contemplating adoption if they're infertile themselves but if their partner is they'll prefer to just get a different girlfriend over adopting kids.

Let me know if you think this is not the case, I want to believe you.

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[–] 1 point 6 months ago*

The main reason I wanted kids at all was to mix my wife's genes with mine and see what happened. I am, actually, infertile but we had some success after 2 years, and an "accident" 3 years after that. If it didn't work out for us I think my second choice would be a sperm donor. That way I still get to see my wife in the kids. The hurdles to adoption put it last on the list of options. Right behind just not having kids. Not that I wouldn't adopt a kid, but going through the process is/was overwhelming to me. I prefer to go about it the way my parents did. Adopt the kids in your life as they need it.

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