The only way I'll ever have children is through adoption but it seems most guys want biological children.

Most of the guys I met would say that they fear that they wouldn't see an adopted child as theirs which honestly breaks my heart a little.

I did some research and apparently most adoptive parents generally chose that option because the man is infertile, not the other way around.

So it would seem like most men are only contemplating adoption if they're infertile themselves but if their partner is they'll prefer to just get a different girlfriend over adopting kids.

Let me know if you think this is not the case, I want to believe you.

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[–] 1 point 6 months ago

I'd be okay with adopting. However, I would probably try a biological kid first, because I'm interested in how all those evolutionary parenting instincts would kick in, as I hear they are supposed to with your own genetic offspring.

I am sure that, given the responsibility of being a parent to an adopted child, I would care for them and love them with fierce and unstoppable devotion. I've got an adopted sister and she's my sister, no question. My partner's got a kid, and though I'm not really a father figure to them at this point in the relationship, I would burn the world down before seeing them hurt.

So in summary, as a man, adopting seems to be just as good as bio.

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