am I just supposed to become even WEIRDER than I am, let all that kinky energy turn toxic and then rapey

No.

type for 20 minutes a day about butt sex with an LLM

You do you, but if it's reinforcing isolation, also maybe no? I sure hope they aren't mutually exclusive though.

Maybe it works for you. I dunno. But letting people just simulate their unpalatable fantasies with software that is the pinnacle of enablement is a bad fucking mix.

Life and society is real. Pawning uncomfortable realities off on software that glazes you at every opportunity just accelerates the rate at which people emotionally, socially, and sexually stunt themselves.

So called "AI" is cancer for the mind. Combining that with letting your life be led and dictated by the whims of your dick is the equivalent of not thinking twice about taking harder and harder drugs because shit like weed or alcohol loses its appeal.

Sometimes its beneficial to pump the brakes and take a step back to think about how things might be affecting one's life.

Also, I highly disagree that there's a significant subset of dudes that are unfuckably gross by chance. Just look at that Reddit sub about dudes asking if its time to cut their absolutely shitty hair. Being that ignorant of your hygiene and outward appeal is a choice in many cases. The problem is that men are not raised to be self aware and when life comes to dunk on their social ineptitude they'd rather wallow in misery and blame anything and anyone else than do literally anything to help themselves.

There's a lot of men out there that deserve empathetic and attentive help for their issues. There's also a lot of men that are just straight-up negligent, selfish, and lazy. If you have any female friends, poll them about their experiences with men and you'll realize just how fucking stark the situation is. It's insane.

There's other people who like those same strange things, I promise.

(Rule 34 actually comes in handy for once.)

That's one of the really cool things about furries (I'm a furry). They're so sex-positive and kink-positive that as long as it doesn't involve hurting anyone (as in actual harm, there's plenty of "ooh yeah hurt me!" type kinks), you can generally find it. How much art there is of it does scale with popularity of course and finding niches of niches isn't always super productive but it is out there.

...I do not understand the "getting toxic and rapey" bit though.

Or the "unfuckably gross" bit, for that matter. Of course, being a furry (and therian) I don't even present as human online, let alone anything about the specific body I'm in, I do lewdstuff as a wolf. And when you're just deciding you're gonna present as a totally different species anyway, nobody has to be gross! Physical-body attractiveness literally doesn't matter at all.

-- Frost