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What is a good adhd hack for those cases during which you want to do a million things but are paralyzed and can't? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
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I have so many things I want to do but just can't. Play a video game, read a book, take dog for walk, build a gadget I bought parts for, finish writing a song, finish building a computer... But no, I just sit there stuck. How do I get unstuck?

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[–] 15 points 1 year ago* (4 children)

Tried it, not a great success... The only result is making me not want whatever was chosen anymore.

  • Movie A or movie B?
  • I can't decide... I want to watch both...
  • Lets flip a coin.
  • The coin says movie A.
  • I don't want movie A anymore. Movie B it is then.
  • Wait maybe the coin is using reverse psychology on me... I should pick movie C that wasn't in the list just to be safe.

My brain has this awful tendency of going "I could have done it a minute ago but now that someone else told me to I can't anymore"

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    If you flip a coin and don’t like the answer that just means you already decided but didn’t realize you had decided.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    No it's really that the result feels like a decision imposed on me and my brain can't deal with that... It's the same if I start to do something I want, then someone calls to tell me to do it and now I can't do it anymore. Not sure if it's PDA or something else, but it's really annoying, especially in combination with AuDHD.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    Was just about to suggest it might be PDA. I have a bit of that and it is rather annoying. Some techniques ive used go combat this:

    • challenge yourself. Or someone else challenge you to do a thing. "I bet you can't do x."
    • give yourself a couple choices that lead to the same result and then just lick one. This one can be tough if im feeling indecisive.

    Neither are perfect but they do help sometimes.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Nice suggestions, thanks!

    Challenges usually get the opposite reaction than demands for me, I can't even count all the stuff I've done because of it. Maybe self (not-)imposed challenges would work? I'll need to give it a try. Though challenges also have their problems, like picking the most stupid or pointless ideas because I was advised not to do it. I think there's a correlation between how stupid and pointless an idea is and how quickly my brain latches onto in 😅

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