I only draw lines for myself. I am not arrogant to claim to speak for anyone else.

I also draw the lines based on context of the existing community, god forbid!

If you don't like certain words, cool, don't interact go go to places that allow them. But the issue is your need to impose your personal beliefs on others who don't share them, and don't want to share them.

Should I go into a black barber shop and start informing the community there how racist/ableist/sexist they all are based on their language use? Or would that just make me the racist?

From where I stand, that would make me the racist POS if I did that. Trying to impose my bullshit on other people who never asked for it, who don't want it, and think it's total bullshit. Maybe I should go into the barber shop and 'educate' all those 'ignorant' black men about bell hooks!!! Clearly that will 'fix' their ignorance!!

Language changes, it doesn't 'progress'. Lots of new racist and discriminatory terms now exist that didn't years ago, many of which are totally acceptable because they are new and not 'weird'.

But keep insisting that your language use is the only 'correct' one, I guess? It must make you feel big since you 'know' the 'right' language use. You should go around and 'educate' everyone you see on the street about it. See how well that goes over.

Tell me more you live in a white college-educated liberal/leftie bubble, and think anyone who doesn't share your viewpoints is 'less than' you.

It's not about logic. It's about you waking up the fact you don't get to dictate how other people live their lives or how they speak, and your need to do that is nothing more than a power-tripping projection. And that you 'welcoming to everyone' necessary excludes people and is inherently contradictory based on arbitrary perceptions of language use, articulated by you, how views yourself as the dominant social group, and your instance that you 'speak on behalf' of those who you view as inherently less than you, that you must 'protect'. I also notice these types of folks are self-appointed protectors. I doubt anyone asked you personally to go on the internet and start protecting them from certain words there.

That's why this type of identity political nonsense pisses most people off, because it's inherently contradictory on it's own terms. And it's typically welded by wannabe bullies who want to browbeat and power trip rather than genuinely create diverse communities and interesting communities. The inherent contradiction is why they use this 'protect people' justification all the time.

Further, I see words and things I disagree with all the time. But it's not my place to ban or dictate to others how to speak or or force my views on them. I simple choose not to interact with them, but I am not so cowardly to think I can silence away their existence because it find it upsetting or find it offensive. Just like in real life, I don't go up to people having a conversation that I find offensive and try to 'educate' them about how wrong they are, or tell someone off for wearing clothing I find offputting. Because I respect other people's agency and freedom far more than respect my internal feelings of disgust and dislike.

Also why I don't go into a Mosque and start trying to convert people there to Christianity... because I respect that they are different than me, and have practices and beliefs that are different than mine and oftentimes contradict mine. And they have such as might right to practice and speak as I do.

But if they start trying to covert me, yeah I'll tell them to properly fuck off. Just like they should tell me to fuck off if I try to covert them. And that is what creates diversity and inclusion... respect for differences and the choice to participate.