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Do people really communicate like this? (lemmy.ca)
submitted 7 months ago by to c/casualconversation@piefed.social
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I checked my Pixelfed messages today and see this. I've literally no idea what the first half means, so I asked my daughter to translate the acronyms. No idea what "no disrespect" is conveying.

I never really thought of pixelfed as a place for spam or scammers. If the intent is genuine, then I'm even more perplexed by how they are choosing communicating. I'm not going to respond because it feels off, so yeah...

Perhaps I'm just showing my age?

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[–] 0 points 7 months ago (4 children)

If you only reach out to someone with straightforward requests, it seems like they're being used. I value the hypothetical you as an individual, rather than a resource that provides me with something.

I've grown to realize that most other people don't seem to feel the same way and I try to accommodate, but every time I start a conversation with a demand, it feels rude to me.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (3 children)

    Just curious: Would you consider it rude if someone else sends you a text with a straightforward request? Or do you just feel like it could be perceived as rude when you do it?

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    If the only messages I ever receive from that person are requests and demands, I don't know if I would call it rude from them, but I certainly wouldn't feel valued as a person.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 child)

    Okay I get that. However, I feel like this has nothing to do with the original issue. If I only ever receive "requests and demands" from someone it would not make it any better if they beforehand say "hey, do you have time for a quick question" every time.

    Of course I also text about other topics. Of course I ask how they are doing and chat about stuff. But when I have I question I simply ask that question.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago

    I suppose that's a valid point, but engaging in discourse with a person before and, ideally, after a request seems to me to express that you appreciate them as both a person with whom you'd like to engage as well as someone who can help you. Admittedly the positive impact is diminished if you only do so when you need something.

    It is highly dependent on the other person's interpretation of the situation. If they don't like to chat, then the person attempting to do so certainly could be interpreted as the rude one.

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