…you see whats happening here right?

Yes. I see two men in a women's only group having long conversations with each other. In the women's only group.

Is there something else I should be seeing?

I know what I want to be seeing. I want to see two posturing baboons realize what's happening here and quietly delete their posts in embarrassment. I also, sadly, know what I expect to be seeing: at least one of the two will make excuses, protest, or otherwise miss the point entirely.

Well, you're making some big assumptions there. I made my comment from personal experience of a small number of men in my life who had made similar comments, because I have noticed that they've all said similar things and engaged in similar behavior. It is not a sweeping prejudice. I also happen to know a number of men who handled separation and custody decisions gracefully and didn't try to blame their troubles on their former partner or the court.

I generally tend to believe the courts' decisions in these cases because it's literally all they do, judges tend to have very high level training to avoid being tainted by biases, and the public is extremely sensitive to matters of judicial impartiality. For someone who was just ruled against, complaining about the system that made that ruling is such low hanging fruit in that moment. Just because someone is butthurt doesn't mean the system isn't working, and it doesn't mean they're in the right.