I don't think cats have a social structure complex enough to even have a concept of gender, so they probably don't care how I refer to them

I too find it offensive when the french misgender my table

also i cant not assign gender to animal because of russian which has grammatical gender, Mary jumped would be "мэри прыгнуЛА" in feminine form or tishka "тишка прыгнуЛ", so there everything is gendered so i have a habbit, word dog is by default in feminine form "собакА" word puppy only in masculine form "щёноК", cats are also gendered , male cat is "кот" female cat "кошка" , tiger, male "тигр", female "тигрица", also profession names exclusivly in male form , eg there only "психолог"(psycholog) "водитель"(driver), "психологиня" sounds weird and usually as insult "водительница" never heard this word, but we have in everyday use "уборщица" (feminine form cleaner)...... everything is overgendered, but random people doesnt gender me at all to unknown or higher status people we say "вы" not "он" "она" is unrespectful usually threaded as insult, yes ppl can say "мужчина" (men) "молодой человек" "парень" (young men) or "мальчик" (boy), or "женщина" (women) or "девушка" (young women) or "девочка" (girl), but i never heard is outside atleast in my region, my region native language is bashkort and in tatar and bashkort no fucking pronouns no gendering only "ул сулей" (they saying), russian language lesson... also seems like french is gendered

im really hope that im not misgendering cats , how to speak with them? okay they dont care they not in human society, but what if tishka feel gender dysphoria about not having balls and testosterone after orchie?

heh really

I don't. There's nothing wrong with referring to a person or animal by a gender. With humans, you can ask what their gender is, but animals don't care, so going by their sex is fine.