ISP obviously don't see the traffic inside your own network, regardless of the router used. But as soon as you open any kind of connection over the internet, incoming or outgoing, your ISP has to have some information about it to route the traffic. DNS over TLS doesn't hide that your browser opens connections to servers, they can see if you use wireguard to access your services (not which ones, just in general that there's traffic coming and going) and even if you use VPN for everything they can still see the encrypted VPN traffic and, at least technically, apply pattern recognitions on that to figure out what you're doing. And if you use VPN then your VPN provider can do the same than your last-mile internet provider, so you'll just move the goal by doing that.

Last-mile ISP is going to be a middleman on your network usage no matter what you use and they'll always have at least some information about your usage patterns.