I feel ya. Got a similar situation. She often does not want me to go down on her or similar bevause she does not have the energy to reciprocate. But she still says she wants it. The she keeps saying 'oh you don't have to do all this'.

It's odd but sometimes we do stuff because it feels good to make our loved ones feel good.

Bro, talk to her about getting a Fleshlight. That way you both win. She won't feel guilty and both of you pleasure each other.

I genuinely wonder what that's about. Why is it so much of a sacrifice, why is it any different from giving a back rub (assuming you have good hygiene). I certainly am not bothered by going down on her - on the contrary.

it sounds like she wants to reciprocate giving pleasure in some way, just not that one. give her an idea.

the sexiest organ you can use during sex is your brain, then your voice. communication goes a long, long way.