More that I did unacceptable things as a child and grew out of them. An appeal that I’m not some righteous figure, just someone who wants to do better and would like to see that elsewhere.
Not what I meant, to be fair I should have been more explicit. I was pointing out that you are referencing your childhood, implying this was a while ago and that this goes along with the idea that language changes over time, which the person you responded to had pointed out.
Do you think "idiot" and "moron" are offensive to the mentally handicapped? Are they unacceptably ableist?
Everyone self polices to some extent.
Yes, but its intrinsically unpleasant. Its essentially a mutually agreed upon facade for business and formality that many people prefer to willingly destroy with alcohol to socialize with each other more authentically.
As a fellow autistic person, you should know well the resentment stemming from constant and heavy masking.
Feels like the only reason it’s seen as acceptable is because you can shout that word and not have an angry mob delete you.
Maybe for some people this is the case but not mine. I use the r-slur because I feel a distinct and strong disgust for anti-intellectuals and dumb shit rightwingers that softer insults do not even make qualification for let alone rank for casual usage where I'm not necessarily trying to get creative.
Other words that authentically would get me "deleted" as you say I feel zero desire to say out loud. Ultimately though, the reason I don't is the people saying them are precisely the sort to want to propagate violence towards the racial or gender group they're using a slur for. They're stochastically calling for violence against innocent people. Using the r-slur doesn't do that.
That’s the point. I’m autistic too and instead of tolerating shit, backsliding behavior that was picked up from the people we are all agreeing are terrible, I said something.
I don't consider this taking cultural ideas from the right. Though we definitely do that and I think its normal for the two political factions of left and right to take cultural ideas from each other. Regardless, the r-slur was considered acceptable by virtually everyone pre-2010. Left or right. And the ramp up in disdain for the usage of word happened leading up to Trump's first electoral victory in 2016.
Using slurs that were resurrected by awful people should not be that difficult, nor elicit such discussion. It should be the baseline.
Its not baseline. Its obviously still a debate, a stubborn one as well.