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It really helps (piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)
submitted 8 months ago by to c/NiceMemes@sopuli.xyz
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[–] 13 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I had a teacher who liked my writing, always left an encouraging comment and said I made her laugh. Then I came to high school and my new teacher graded me lower because she thought my writing wasn't good. She made another classmate read his work that she liked. It wasn't good or anything special. It still made me lose all motivation for writing. Sucks when you're the type of person who relies heavily on external validation.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    That sucks. Have you found ways to help override that need for external validation?

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    No. I'm very sensitive to criticism and I lose motivation easily (with a host of other things — suspected ADHD I'm postponing getting tested for). I require a lot of external validation and pressure to function beyond bare minimum.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    That's tough!

    Originally I meant it as more of an empowering question - in theory this isn't something that has to define you.

    Granted, it's a huge challenge to change, but it doesn't have to define you if you choose to chip away at it. At least, thats what i tell myself,anyway - I'm wired similarly

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