![“In my work with the defendants [at the Nuremberg Trials, 1945-1949] I was searching for the nature of evil, and I now think I have come close to defining it: a lack of empathy. It’s the one characteristic that connects all the defendants, a genuine incapacity to feel with their fellow men. Evil, I think, is the absence of empathy.” —psychologist Gustave Gilbert](https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/32201175-847a-4cab-8cf0-e05945842616.jpeg)
I don't understand the perspective you're coming-from.
True empathy is where one totally-understands another's experience/perspective, & one "is one with" their condition/experiencing.
It isn't that it makes you feel good to do that, or even to be able to do that: it's just wired in, an innate-muscle of mind ( the mirror-neuron system, which seems to be broken in psychopaths ).
Why would being pierced by another's grieving make one feel good to be doing?
Honest empathy isn't self-serving.
It is overwhelming.
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