Does Lemmy or PieFed have anything similar to the Reddit R4R communities who want to connect people in a local area for friendship? And are there anything like the dating subreddits? Or even the cheater ones? Or like marriedbutchatting?

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[–] [S] 1 point 9 months ago (2 children)

I hadn’t really used Reddit much until fairly recently if anything other than checking some art subreddits or find some answers. I didn’t even know there were porn on there, shows how little I explored it. There’s a bunch of terminology that is just expected users know without any sort of glossary. One of those was R4R, which I had to Google. 

I like the idea behind a community (I assume that is what c/ stands for) which is focused on connecting people in specific local areas, be it to organise D&D tournaments, chess matches or as is my interest, photo meetups, exercise, cycling walking groups. 

But the same applies to dating. I didn’t know those existed on Reddit either until recently, as Reddit seems ill-suited for it. But let’s say a singles event around a pub meetup, movie meetup, exercise meetup or whatever.

From looking superficially, it seems the R4R<Location> subreddits have become for hookups, which is ok if separated from the other things.

So for instance if I was to start a community for say a local calisthenics community for Sydney where I’m from, what might you call it? Is there a code word like R4R<location> that people could search for, or are there no conventions yet?

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 9 months ago

    The fact that the Lemmmy/PieFed community (not sure what the collective term is) is still small is OK, since you have to start somewhere; it’s a catch-22, if there isn’t a community, they won’t come, and hence you don’t build a community. So starting something local so when they come looking they will have somewhere to post their interests is a start.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    I mean, I feel like R4R communities never work out very well because reddit/lemmy/piefed posts are, by their nature, ephemeral. It is weird to find or respond to a post more than a few hours old, so to find your person/people, it takes quite a bit of luck for you to post, the within a few hours someone looking for what you are offering in the same city where you live happens to check the sub/comm.

    Otoh, if you start /c/SydneyCalisthnics, it will probably look like a pretty dead community for quite a while, which will drive people away.

    Instead, I think a good place to start would be a weekly post in /c/Sydney detailing various events/meetups/etc that week, where regular events are in the post header, and then people can comment to tell people about their own events or meetups they want to promote.

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