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The daily saga (lemmy.world)
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[–] 6 points 9 months ago* (5 children)

What about when it's "I'm totally going to do my laundry today" in the morning, and then suddenly realizing it's already evening and I haven't done a fucking thing all day, and saying "Okay, tomorrow for sure." For literal weeks at a time.

Or how about this one? I start organizing in the morning, intending to spend the day decluttering. Ten minutes in, I get distracted with a book, or some craft supplies, or an unfinished, forgotten project, or whatever the hell else I find in the piles of clutter that crowd my room because I'm never quite done with it, but I rarely actually get back fo it because I'm always starting something new and hardly ever finishing anything.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (4 children)

    You like learning new things, when they aren't new anymore they aren't fun, which is why you have a thousand hobbies that have "just been started and abandoned". Part of this is accepting that you no longer are intrigued by older hobbies, and making room for new ones. I would recommend disposing of or donating your old hobby supplies, or simply storing them out of the way in bins.

    For the second part, it sounds like you don't enjoy cleaning or organizing, and are easily distracted by more enjoyable activities. A good way to go about this is to reward yourself with those things once you finish the chore or task you set yourself, rather than to switch to them immediately.

    I'd also add that if you have a chore you can put off for weeks on end, it might not be that important of a chore in the first place.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (3 children)

    Yeah, laundry isn't that important. I can just wear the same clothes for months on end before they start to feel stiff and grimy...

    And it's not that I mind organizing. It's that I have to study every thing individually to see whether I still need it out or if I can put it away. "Oh yeah, I got this book out cause I meant to read it. Let me look at the back cover and table of contents to see whether I'm still interested..." "Oh, here's my embroidery hoop! Lemme just finish up this project real quick before I put it away."

    Lastly, having a thousand unfinished projects and constantly starting new hobbies isn't that big of a deal, but the same pattern exists when it comes to career path, and it's kinda hard to develop job skills when I literally can't give a shit about something for more than a month at a time...

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  • [–] 0 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Well you do have a skill others might be envious of, which is the ability to change and learn new things without it causing stress or anxiety. You might do better changing jobs frequently rather than staying in something long term. I think some of the problems surrounding this kind of thing are more to due with the gap between what you expect of yourself and how you actually behave. I would just be careful that the expectations you place on yourself are realistic as its very easy to have them skewed by TV, movies, and social media. If you have unreasonable expectations of yourself you will never meet them and it will cause frustration.

    I think its helpful to have a perspective that says that everyone is different but that different does not mean better or worse. Instead of one right answer, there are many. The things you think might make your life harder are also the things that are special about you, and there is a good use for them out there somewhere.

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