I do... Like obviously. They had no control over that decision or access to accurate information

Not every Russian is Putin. I feel bad for the queer people over there, too.

Why would the average Russian, who I heard doesn't even want to do this stupid Ukraine war, be punished?

I'm sure not all Germans in WW2 were bad, but we still collectively punished them, because they were there and let it happen. 70% of Americans knowingly didn't vote against this and that's a high enough percentage to hold them collectively responsible, without even delving into all the complacency and complicity that lead to the point where it was even possible.