I'm a horny guy and even enjoy cheesy male power fantasy erotica shlock or eroge game now and then but:

I can't say I've ever thought to myself "you know what this movie/show needed? More implied genitals* slapping together."

I usually read a little bit about any piece of media before commiting time to watching it, so something like Heated Rivalry I wouldn't watch for the same reasons you've listed. Bland softcore. Zzz.

However, I can't say I've ever felt like generic throwaway sex scenes ruined any tv show or movie for me, so that's why I don't personally have a strong opinion on it. Not even Game of Thrones bothered me. Didn't turn me on either, so it's just kinda there. Fluff. Let's say in an alternate universe Heated Rivalry was very well written and compelling while still having the same amount of softcore scenes. Is it still bad?

What if it's extremely negative like tw:

I think it helps for impact to show for that kind of horror, so there's exceptions.