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I genuinely care about my friends but forgot stay in touch (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/adhd@lemmy.world
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I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it's like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I've found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?

Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect

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[–] 2 points 10 months ago (1 child)

If there's people I care about but hardly stay in touch with, they usually get my annual greetings over the holidays. During Christmas or New Year's I go through my contacts and just pass along wishes to everyone I care about. Often they answer and use the chance to catch up about the year. It served me well. Maybe using such an annual opportunity helps you, too.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 10 months ago

    Yeah that's great and I used to do similar as they'd often reach out to me during that time as well. I also think its useful for people to find tools that help them all year round if they wanted to reach out more than just once a year

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