I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a "you aren't a woman?!?" "I am a woman, but I'm trans". . I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good.

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[–] 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I would advertise you’re trans so you don’t surprise the other person tbh

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  • [–] [S] 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Yes, I realize that now. I assumed that it was blindingly obvious and I did indicate I'm trans, both in the text and as my gender. Seems the freeloaders don't see any text or even info before a match so some visual aid is probably warranted, like a trans pride flag or something.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

    They actually just changed this. I have been on Taimi for a year as an unpaid member and I could see things like gender, location, actual profiile info and such and as of last week all that info is now hidden...

    But I am not even entirely sure that it only applies to unpaid members because I had a gold membership for a week and that info stopped showing up about three days before the gold membership ended and two days before I cancelled the membership.

    I want to like Taimi more but god damn they are pricey just to see basic ass info about each other.

    And for what it's worth, yes, you absolutely are a woman, and would be even if you didn't "pass." I am glad however that it helped boost your self confidence.

    Finally... If you're entirely straight and on Taimi what the fuck are you even doin (not you-you, but the guy who had the audacity to say something as stupid as "you're not a woman")? I'm only "straight" in the sense that I am attracted to women and transwomen are women so you get the idea.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If that change is permanent, I'm leaving. Platinum is way too expensive and gold just became completely worthless.

    They're going to lose a lot of customers on this.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    Do you have any suggestions for a Taimi replacement? I tried Hinge but nobody is on it in my area except "non-political" Christians and it makes me want to die. On the plus side unlike Taimi, Hinge actually has a "gynesexual" option for sexual preferences.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago

    I've had more luck on Hinge than on Taimi, but that may be a regional thing. I'm on greed too, but that is about as dead as it gets. I paid for six months right off the bat without even checking the app too closely first. Mistake. Also, greed is such a bad name.

    I'm on "Her" too, but I've drifted more towards guys lately so I'm not using it much.

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