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I am getting offended on this kind of messages, am I overreacting? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I got this comment as a reply to my post:

You can get a job and do your math, too.
Other people do more with less, why can't you?
Answer:

spoilerGreed and entitlement.

I feel quite offended, that I have to care about someone else who "do more with less". What does it have to do with greed? I do not get the thought process behind it.

I wonder if I am overreacting. I would feel better if they just said to get a job, but it felt more like they are trying to make fun of me.

EDIT: Thanks everyone for thoughtful replies! Now I feel a lot better - I was in very bad mood when I got the reply above, so I felt even more attacked. Still, I should learn to not get overly offended like this.

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[–] 15 points 1 year ago (6 children)

There's two kinds of people I've met pursuing doctorates.

Those who are independently wealthy and don't need to work while pursuing it and those who aren't and do.

Both seem incredibly stressed and depressed almost consistently. Though the latter seem to be, understandably, bitter at the lamentations of the former.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I've never met either. Then again, I'm not in the US. A PhD is always done in conjunction with a job. And I don't mean waitressing, I mean your PhD work is incorporated in your job.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    That sounds better. My friend is working in their field, but the positions are set up knowing that they'll mostly be applied for by PhD students with masters degrees during their coursework, so they know they can pay like crap and they'll take it anyway. All my understanding of these systems come from the US way, so it's nice to know it's better elsewhere.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 1 year ago* (3 children)

    I see, maybe that's it. But I've also seen many who aren't rich and get by through scholarships instead. I believe I am one of them - I earn a little bit of money as I pursue my doctorate, although it's not much. I guess this is impossible in US, maybe..

    I do not understand what this has to do with greed.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    I'm not sure, though I don't think I'd use the word greed or entitlement there. That said, I think people who aren't working through their doctorate often don't appreciate just how lucky they are to avoid such a burden. A friend of mine was kvetching about a fellow in their cohort complaining about how the dissertation scheduling was interfering with their European vacation holiday while my friend is trying to pick up as many shifts as they can at two part time jobs that wildly underpay them for their education level. My friend never has a consistent schedule and never seems to have more than maybe ten hours of free time a week outside of sleeping. That person is entitled and clueless.

    That all said, I don't think you need to take the words of anyone on social media or an internet forum all that seriously or personally.

    Personally? The academic system seems utterly fucked up and abusive. In a way that favors education for the few that can mitigate the pains of capitalism already.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    The academic system seems utterly fucked

    This right here

    Unfortunately we need calm, competent, apolitical technocratic adults in policy-making positions to address this structural deficiency.

    Imagine if the Secretary of Education, Science Adviser, head of NASA, head of HHS, etc, all came together and said, "We need to re-work the incentive structure for publishing papers. More reproducibility, better review processes, totally new funding model. Moreover, all academic publications must be available free to the public -- and important findings also come with funding for science communicators to simplify and clarify findings to the public"

    Instead, we get brainworm, anti-Tylenol, more trans-fats

    "We are in a race between education and oblivion"

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