I am struggling to understand why approaching any topic with calm and critical thinking instead of potentially rash action based on potentially temporary feelings is toxic?

If you're internally dating to be queer for a long time, that clearly is not a temporary situation. If you then talk to someone and they throw that statement, of course, they can go f themselves.

My critique is that this phrase is very general and not healthy to just put out there in a general context. Words mean things, in general. This is not a phrase like arbeit macht frei or something that is obviously used in bad faith. The phrase is, in my opinion, reasonable.

I am sharing that, in my experience, if I had used this approach on everything my friends or family have said, I would not be where I am today, and I definitely regret a LOT of decisions that I thankfully avoided because people told me to go slow and think critically before acting. or "Not acting on a potentially temporary feeling".

If my experience is unhealthy to you, so be it, but it's not toxic to tell you what or how I have made positive experiences hearing this phrase. To me, especially how it's drawn here the character with the stamp is being toxic. Dismissing without asking someone who is calmly saying something. Depict the saying character in a dismissive or hostile way? Fair point.

I used to be in the queer community more, but was trying to get away from the internet in general after experiencing just ... general hostility to any challenge to any kind of established thought or trend.