I’m very sorry if my dumb joke caused any regret. It was low-hanging fruit and I thought it would be funny.

Speaking only for myself, when I sense ambiguity, I ask questions to try to improve clarity. On the internet it’s especially easy (understandably) for people to assume a “hostile” or “negative” tone in any bit of writing, even if that’s not intended at all. You can also try a bit of role-playing, where you assume you asked the question and read your answer as if it was something someone else responded to you with. If you vibe with that approach, you can use it to “tune your tone”, or “writer’s voice”.

I’m no expert, either, these are simply my own anecdotes and I often fail miserably at taking my own advice, as humans are wont to do. Again, I appologize if my lazy attempt at humor caused any distress. I’m happy to have you here and to be able to talk like this. Please reach out any time!