Screenshot of a post by user "former-incel" on Tumblr. The post discusses how phrases like “you will die alone, no one will ever want you” are used to manipulate and harm people’s self-esteem. It argues that while this phrase is often used by abusive partners against women, the manosphere uses the same tactic on men, especially shorter men and even those of average height by convincing them they’re inherently unlovable. The author compares this to emotional abuse, saying it’s a way to make men dependent on the manosphere for validation and community.
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[–] [S] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Vulnerable people tend to be the target of abusive ones. They'll basically reinforce that vulnerable person's beliefs from their experiences to say they shouldn't risk anything but to stick with that abusive partner. So they tend to reinforce the focus more on anyone else being oppressive, to create a sense of "why should you bother?" Also those women who care so much about height tend to be assholes. I saw those types from Twitter a long time ago and I would roll their eyes whenever they, at the same time, sexualise asian men or are outspoken about racism even though asian men tend to be shorter. Also one thing that's almost a parallel to the manosphere are the radfems (or at least they call themselves that way, because whatever they are seems different from what radical feminism is supposed to be). A lot of these radfems tend to just only see men in a bioessentialist or utilitarian way, because they think men are incapable of genuine connection. And it too, is a pipeline of sorts (which I encountered firsthand through Pinterest) because they start with women voicing out real concerns, to "rule of thumbs", to defending the use of generalised language such as "men are...", until they become prejudiced and start seeing individual men as only a part of a greater whole for this perceived collective identity of a "man".

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