Hmmm you might be polishing the intentions of the military a little bit. The Army wants a private who will follow orders without hesitation or even thought. You break down a person and build them into a tool, a cog in the machine. Yes, some will grow and advance, some will gain valuable skills that promote lifelong achievements, some will rise from a life devoid of options to become contributing citizens. But also, some will become cannon fodder, sent to secure a hill or defend an oilfield or depose a democratically-elected socialist.

But otherwise, yes. Incel culture and basic training have a lot in common with cult indoctrination.