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Know your limits (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
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[–] 97 points 1 year ago (24 children)

I seriously don't get it. My wife can do it every night. She just lays down and goes to sleep. Like what? I need at least three hours of wrestling my worst thoughts before I can sleep

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  • [–] 35 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Every damn night ... Toss turn toss turn toss turn... Finally sleep, a gnat on the other side of town farts and I'm up... Go to the bathroom, rinse repeat... 1 1/2 hr before I have to be up and fucking gigantic loud as hell disel trucks start their parade...

    I just want to sleeeeepppp

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  • [–] [S] 23 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I am basically your wife. When I lie down to sleep, I am unconscious within five minutes. Typically. My issue comes from staying asleep. I will wake up anywhere from 3 to 15 times a night and I fucking hate it.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    That's not unusual, depending on a few factors. What really matters is how disruptive it is. I do the same, but as long as it's just a rollover, I can be back to dream land in a minute or two. ... unless it was shitty dreams, then I might be missing the rest of my sleep...

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I used to be like this, and suddenly changed virtually overnight after being on an SNRI for anxiety for like a year. It also results in me waking up before 9 am every day, when I used to be a get up at noon person. It’s weird as shit and I slightly suspect a helpful brain tumor.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago*

    I just do all that before I get into bed lol...

    But no really, I've gotten a little better at being aware of my thoughts if they start spiraling, and terminating it before it gets too bad. Took a long time though.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Have you tried meditation? When I do it, I tend to get through most of that nonsense a lot faster. Just sit, focus on breathing, and if something pops into your head, recognize it and clear your mind. Eventually things should settle down and you can try sleeping.

    Set an alarm for 10-15 min. Sitting on the floor is best, but aid that's uncomfortable, a chair is fine for the first few sessions to see if it'll work.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    As an add-on to this, some people are inherently better at meditation to start with. So hearing from other people how short their journey was from "meditation is just a waste of time" to "after some practice it started to be more effective" can be really discouraging for people where that journey can be years. But everyone can get good at meditating. And generally, the harder or more useless it seems to start out, the more you need what it offers.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    If racing/anxious thoughts isn't the cause, you may have great success with the military sleep method: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/military-sleep-method

    I was sure the version I'd read months ago, had you tense up the muscles before relaxing them section by section; but I could not immediately find any variabts which mentioned that part. I used to do the very lite version, counting my breaths. Worked pretty well, over the years - after getting my head sorted out first - I've built a habit of falling asleep in 515 mins. Used to often take an hour, occasionally 23.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    You lie yourself, and you lay other things. Your wife lies down and goes to sleep.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    That's an artificial distinction some grammarians decided to put into textbooks in the 1700s. Many many people use lie and lay interchangeably and the thing about language is how people use it is how it's defined.

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