Oh fuck off. I am not being contrarian. I am just too old to believe in absolutes. Things change, people change. That's just life. And having seen multiple people die of cancer over the years, that shit is no fucking joke and will absolutely ruin the lives of everyone involved. If someone just cannot handle that, it's OK to leave that awful situation. Yes, it does suck even more for the person who's actually ill. But I really don't see a point in ruining multiple lives because of one person's illness. Again, if people want to step up and be there, that is amazing and laudable. But if you step away simply to protect yourself, you will probably feel bad and wish you could do more. But sometimes you just can't. Once more: that's simply how life is.