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Everybody is fine with celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg making up fake names for themselves, but when someone chooses a name for themselves to suit their gender identity it's suddenly a problem (lemmy.ca)
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[–] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

So change your name to pupscent IRL?

You or anyone else can change their names to anything you want anytime; however, you can't force people to like it.

Sure, if you want dream_weasel to like it, you can ask for the approved list. If you want to name yourself General Buttfuckingnaked you absolutely can, but if people don't like it that's YOUR problem. It isn't trans insensitive to be weirded out by you naming yourself Incestte, it's just a weird fucking name.

I feel like if you're trying to mandate what people MUST like, you are CAUSING a problem. You can't force me to say a black belt and brown pants and shoes go together because a trans person picked it, that is still a shitty choice. Names are same deal. Being trans doesn't mean you are instantly exempt from every form of taste.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    There was a time when women could not wear pants. Men couldn't have long hair. Bellbottoms,.... well, enuf said.

    There are always people who have issues with how others talked/behaved/looked etc. In each case I don't think those people gave a shit if others liked it or not or they would have made a greater effort to be accepted by the masses.

    I'm hearing from your posts that it's important to be liked by others. I personally don't give a shit if people like me or not. I'm not willing to take on that burden.

    You get out of life what you put into it.

    That comment is easy to say, but much harder to fully embrace. Life experiences have a way of teaching you this lesson.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I'm not sure what youre basing this allegory on. There's nobody saying that trans folks (or anyone else) shouldn't be able to pick whatever name they like. I'm not even saying that people SHOULD like any name and it frankly isn't that important. It's not like don't wear pants or don't grow long hair. What I AM saying is that if you choose a name that is offbeat and people don't love it, like (whoopi, sure) that has nothing to do with being trans and having chosen a name that suits your gender identity, but rather with people having preferences about names that you can't control.

    The unspoken premise of the original post, which I disagree with, is that people don't like some set of names because trans people pick them. Instead, surprised Pikachu, there are names people don't really like. It's not trans stigma, it's filling your candy dish with black jelly beans and candy corn then saying, "people just don't like my candy because I'm pupscent and they are all backward cynophobes". If you like those candies then of course eat them, but let's not call it stigma if other people don't share your tastes.

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