I would say only a minority of us are like that, and usually it's more intense early in transition.

tbh a lot (if not most) trans people just adapt to living as their gender and are fairly "normal" at that point.

When they can, most seem to leave the community, stop identifying as trans, and just integrate fully into cis society. This is part of why it's hard to find trans elders online, "trans community" both in person and online seems to be mostly for people who are visibly non-conforming or who are early in transition.

So the visibly trans people are usually early transitioners, people who struggle with passing (whether intentional or not), and the loud, proud activist types. This can skew the perception of what trans people are like generally.