Yes Lemmy is quite complicated. PieFed is not however - again, at least not to the same degree. I don't know what instance would be best to recommend to people on Reddit (strongly preferably one that has defederated from Hexbear!), though pointing them directly to the page revealing Movies & TV might be a fantastic start? Or here is Cats on PieFed.zip? They don't need to learn everything - like defederation drama - on day one, just feel welcomed as they take their first step.
Then once they are invested, they hopefully won't want to leave. But if they do... that's their choice?