I need to tell someone off but I already know I'm going to be close to tears when I do. And I don't want her to see me crying.

And please spare me any mention of how it is okay to cry. That's not why I'm here.

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[–] 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Offhand: Do it in writing, or over short video seem excellent for many versions of this.

Have a lawyer write it.

If you are prone to dissociate, this might be a time to use that.

Keep it short, avoid pauses and vague subjective wording.

Schedule something you need to get to shortly after.

Communicate at a large distance or from across a closed door. (Less good, rarely correct, use a blindfold.)

Spend time practicing observing feelings and letting them pass without effecting you, try to notice when tears are coming early.

Edit: how could I forget!?! Lithium. Needs a prescription and a few days though.

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