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Parents of Lemmy, would you have your kids keep the bedroom door open when the gender they were attracted to comes over? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Growing up, I was always told that boys could come over if I leave the bedroom door open, and I see a lot with my friends that the girls would not be allowed to have boys over/in the bedroom/have the bedroom door closed or viceversa (boys with girls).

When I realized I may be gay and trans (masc), my parents were accepting and allowed me to have the door closed with girls because I was gay and still not with boys.

Then, I had a boyfriend and they said I could keep the door closed with anyone except my boyfriend.

Now, I'm nonbinary and bisexual. Would you allow your kids to close the door?

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[โ€“] 1 point 1 year ago

Not a parent, but here's my perspective.

My mother always made me work for it. She had a door open policy among other things. She didn't actually care if I was doing the things I wasn't supposed to be doing, she just didn't want to find out. If she found out, it meant I was being too careless/stupid. It's actually a really good way to build up your risk evaluation skills! I did occasionally get myself in trouble (not with sex but other things), and she would help me out of the situation. Id get a lecture about what I did wrong afterwards, but honestly she was pretty good at teaching me.

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