I hear you. I was always a skinny kid, but I went through some bad, traumatic shit in my early twenties and ballooned up - from 105 to 177 as a 5'0" woman. Being obese sucked and I've worked super hard to get the weight off and keep it off. But in the meantime the HAES / fat acceptance thing took off and now I feel like I'm living in bizarro world. I hated being obese for so many reasons and can't imagine how people can convince themselves that it's okay to just remain like that. I mean, to each their own, but they're setting themselves up for disease and disability. I think it's really sad.

I feel heard for the first time. I'm 6'3" and ~165lbs these days and I hear so consistently I'm skin and bones. As if I don't still have a healthy gut/spare tire.

I'm mostly surprised you didn't touch on clothes not being made for what used to be the most standard of body sizes.

Know you aren't alone if nothing else.

the data is out, and apparently, calling someone a fat piece of shit, and them believing you, ISN'T an effective wight lost strategy. I guess you gotta care about yourself to work on yourself? so. there's really no point in telling fat people they are bad and should feel bad.

Wut