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Anon is a fact checker (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

Only problem is every time I've been open about my autism with a person I was attracted to up front their interest starts to slowly fade. Its not immediate, but I suspect they start framing everything I say or do as part of my autism and I think they lose interest because of that. Though its impossible to know, and it might be coincidence or I'm seeing patterns where there are none. So I tend to keep it to myself with in person interactions more these days.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago*

    I think of it like this: Those people were never going to be compatible with you anyway and you spend a lot of time and effort masking and trying to hide who you are. It works for short interactions but not with anybody that you’re going to see often.

    You’re better off acting in a way that makes you the most comfortable and true to yourself. The people who can’t handle that will filter themselves out. Rejection isn’t pleasant, but it’s brief. On the other hand masking constantly is exhausting even if it fools people for a bit.

    You’ll be much more content in the long term if you just understand that it’s okay to just be who you are and let others decide if they like that or not. I guarantee that there are women (and men) who are compatible with you, but you won’t meet them by wasting your time with people who are not.

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