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Anon is a fact checker (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] 36 points 1 year ago (4 children)

There's a difference between having had sex and not being lonely... If these idiots would stop equating being lonely to not getting laid there wouldn't be so much resistance to the idea that there is a problem. Yeah, not being able to find someone to have sex with sucks but there's a whole lot of other shit missing that comes before that. If your only problem is not getting laid you're not lonely you're horny.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If these idiots would stop equating being lonely to not getting laid there wouldn't be so much resistance to the idea that there is a problem.

    The problem is that the vast majority of the time whenever you logically breakdown the actual complaints being put forth by people supporting the idea of a "male loneliness epidemic" they usually boil down to "i deserve sex", or some other misogynistic ideology centered around blaming others for their misanthropy.

    Once you start asking questions like who is responsible for male loneliness? What's the solution for male loneliness? Why are we specifying it as a gender specific epidemic? If there are so many men unified in loneliness, why not just befriend each other......?

    Usually the answers themselves will just be accusations of misandry or just beligerence. And then if they actually engage with any kind of honesty or self reflection, you will usually get down to "I deserve female companionship".....but it's totally not about sex. But also there's a difference between female friends and having a girlfriend.... But it's totally not about sex.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    It isn’t a male loneliness epidemic, it’s a loneliness epidemic. You’re never going to get satisfying answers to your questions if you accept the framing that it’s a male loneliness epidemic.

    It’s a loneliness epidemic for everyone.

    Focusing on the arguments of people who have no understanding of the topic and are just spreading toxicity is pointless; but pretending that there isn’t a loneliness epidemic because it’s used to power some incel memes is contributing to the apathy about this issue which is causing harm to both men and women.

    https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    It isn’t a male loneliness epidemic, it’s a loneliness epidemic. You’re never going to get satisfying answers to your questions if you accept the framing that it’s a male loneliness epidemic.

    My criticism was precisely aimed at people specifically claiming it to be a male loneliness epidemic.....?

    but pretending that there isn’t a loneliness epidemic because it’s used to power some incel memes is contributing to the apathy about this issue which is causing harm to both men and women.

    I never claimed there wasn't a loneliness epidemic, just that there isn't a male loneliness epidemic.

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