Yup. My SO got mouth cancer a couple years back in their early 30's, even though the operation was succesful and chemo & radiation worked and they'll be considered cancer-free in about 9 months, the fact that it happened so early means it's quite likely they'll get it again. How does one live with that information? And as a partner how do I build my life around it? Of course it's possible they'll never get that shit again, but it would be foolish to not prepare ourselves mentally for the worst. If it's around the head they can't get more radiation. If it's in the same place than the previous one they'd would probably lose their ability speak, eat properly etc. The chemo probably made them infertile so if we'd like to have biological childer we have just a couple years to make the decision, and I have restrictions about that so we'd have to look for other opportunities anyways, and we should start looking for them now but we * can't *. If we move elsewhere, as we'd like to, the chances are they won't get as good treatment as here. I don't feel like I'm ready to consider all this in my mid 30's while I'm still trying to find my place in the world. So yeah, fuck cancer.